Saturday, February 20, 2016

How Do You Treat Yourself When You Make a Silly Mistake?

     Mr. Wonderful and I are approaching the last several days of our wonderful vacation in Florida. We wanted to experience everything fun possible in the two weeks we chose to spend in our favorite city, Sarasota. After attending the Sarasota Orchestra’s Pop concert, laughing from the gut at The Book of Mormon at the Van Wetzel auditorium, listening to a fascinating lecture as part of the SILL program and attending a marvelous performance by a gifted 14-year-old violinist at the Sarasota Music Club we were going to finish up the culture portion of our trip with a viewing of a London production of Skylight. We had a lovely meal at the restaurant before the show. Although we were exhausted from running around all day and neither of us sleeping well last night, we just wanted to come back to the hotel and get in our snuggies. We sat down at the theatre and after listening to a conversation in front of us, we looked at each other and said, “Oh, shit.” We had already seen this play. Great! We
paid $40 for these tickets, and they are non-refundable. That’s just great. We could have gone back to the hotel and taken a nap and saved $80 on dinner.

     This experience begs the question:  What do you say to yourself when you do something stupid like this? Do you say what Mr. W. said, “What’s the matter with us? Why didn’t we realize we’d already seen this? That’s $40 down the drain.” I said, “That’s not true. We are human. We make mistakes, and it’s not down the drain. The guy said he would honor the tickets for a future performance.” Are up the woulda/coulda/shouda person? Are you the one who beats himself up until you have convinced yourself you are the world’s worst loser, or do you just brush it off and move on saying, “wtf.”

     The discussion we had at the dinner table with friends last night spoke to a similar point. Do you have regrets? If so, do they haunt you? Do you look back and say, “If only we had done. . . “ or do you move on and take the attitude, “That was then, and I did what I thought the situation warranted. Wrong decision. Oh, well. I learned from it.”

     Which one of these people are you? How did you get like that? How do you want your children to be? How do you teach them to learn and not look back?