Thursday, September 15, 2016

                                    "Tears on my pillow, pain in my heart. . . "


     “Crying forces you to confront whatever you’re feeling, whether it’s disappointment, sadness, anger or frustration. And let’s face it – confronting your emotions is not easy. It’s much easier, in the short term anyway, to suppress those emotions – particularly when they’re negative. Doing the opposite requires strength, bravery and the ability to look inwards.

     In the world of architecture, strength is about much more than hardiness. A good, sturdy structure relieves stress effectively before it becomes destructive. A strong person is no different. For many people, crying relieves built up stress that could easily become damaging if not dealt with properly.

     While crying won’t get you killed or imprisoned, it does remain frowned upon in society – for both genders. Men who cry are stigmatized as weak and unmanly. When women cry, they’re often called crazy or dramatic.Crying despite that stigmatization shows that you’re not afraid to put social convention aside if it means dealing with your overwhelming emotions. That’s strength, my friend.”

     Well, now here’s food for thought. For those of you stoic ones out there who never shed an effen tear, let me say this: you are dealing with the pain or stress in some other way that may be even more devastating like smoking it, eating it, drinking it, tensing it, screaming it, or worrying it in the middle of the night. Yup, we all have stress, tension and sadness. No human escapes these emotions. There are always consequences, however, to how we deal with them. To that friend of mine who tells me she is “always happy” and “in a good mood,” I say, “Well good for you. How do you do that?” I know she has stress, she’s had pain, and she’s had sadness. “Don’t tell me you let it all just roll off your teflon back. I don’t believe you. Maybe you need to cry because that just pisses me off to think of you smiling while every other human is throwing pots and pans or emptying their tear ducts in their Moscow Mules.”

     If you haven’t had a good cry lately, let me tell you from personal experience, it is a great stress reliever. The down side is that your face swells to the size of a large watermelon, and your eyeballs disappear into their sockets. You feel like you’re on day 4 of the worst cold of your life, and your head is pounding like someone took a machete to it. But boyohboy, your stress is gone.

     Alternative stress relievers I’ve discovered are more fun but costly:

1.  Buy new shoes.
2.  Take yourself out to Ruth’s Chris for lunch.
3.  Plan a trip to Anguilla.
4.  Rent a Maserati for the day.
        5.  Buy new shoes.

     The above enlightening research about tears was written by a guy named Dave and posted on face book. Aren’t you glad you tuned in. What? Are those tears I see?